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First of all alam ko naman talaga na natural lang yung mafefeel namin na nagbago yung isa samin since part yun sa paggrow namin.

Kaso she ask me at pinupush na nya ko na hindi na magstay kasi unfair daw sakin di ko raw deserve at baka hindi na nya raw mareciprocate yung feelings or ginagawa ko sa kanya

Pero I asked if she still have feelings for me meron pa raw kaya I refuse to leave kasi hindi ako makakita ng rason para sumuko

She told me na hindi na raw mababalik yung dating sya sakin yung sweet etc.

I know naman na she's not okay this past few days but nung time din kasi na ako yung di okay is hindi ako nag ask ng ending between us, instead I asked space that time.

Matagal ko nang nafeel na para wala na syang feelings or nagbago na sya pero sa isip ko is baka hindi pa talaga sya okay or pagod lang

Now she told me na pag iisipan nya nalang muna para makapagdecide dahil refuse ako ng refuse kasi nga hindi ko maintindihan kung bakit need eend if pareho pa kaming may feelings.

Though it's just sad if di na talaga mababalik yung dating trato nya sakin or the way she act before but I'm still holding on since she still have feelings for me sabi nya nung tinanong ko sya...

I told her na okay lang sa akin yung ganon hanggang sa maging okay na sya basta wag lang eend unless ayaw na talaga namin sa isat isa.... I know rin na marami rin akong mga pagkukulang...
 
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Kahit ako sabihin na kung may feelings kapa ba harapan, sasabihin ko din na merun pa eh, pero after mo umalis/tumalikod wala na din talaga.

Sa totoo lang di ako naniniwala sa love, dun ako sa commitment naniniwala, and if you commit to each other, you will love each other na and you both will choose to stay because you're committed now, and hindi love yung mag papa-stay sa inyo kundi yung 'commitment' nyo sa relasyon nyo.

Mas lalong ayaw ko mag 'love/commit' na isa lang, or yung tinatawag natin na one-sided love, para kang ***** non.

Ito ay aking opinyon lang at maaring hindi para sa lahat xD
 
speaking from an outsider's perspective

a relationship that makes you ask about feelings and status is a broken relationship... masakit pero it's something that someone in a relationship should face.

This situation, in my opinion, is unfair for you... she wanted to end it pero obvious na you're someone who values yung kung anuman yung pinanghahawakan mo sa relasyon nyo, na base sa kwento mo (na base sa intindi ko) hindi na same ang stand nya.

Frankly put, mate, hindi naman hopeless yung sitwasyon. Kasi kita na you are unwilling to give up. Pero ang tanong "kakayanin mo ba na ikaw lang yung mag-shoulder to keep it?" Hanggang kailan mo kakayanin? Sometimes, it's really hard to end something we deemed precious, pero minsan mahalaga din na maging matapang tayonto face it and move forward para makita a din natin yung meant for us - yung better at magpapahalaga sa kung ano yung pinapahalagahan din natin.

All these being said... hopefully, magbago pa sya and both of you be able to fix this. Pero if ever na hindi, I pray na maging malakas ka to let go, para ma-maintain mo din yung self-respect and save yourself from excessive heartache.
 
Ganito paps maganda mo gawin. Try the power of absence.

Mag set ka ng time na hindi mo siya kokontakin at all, 2 weeks or more. Then saka mo alamin kung paano reaction niya dito.

Meron kasi king tawaging power of absence. Baka nmn kasi nasusuya na siya sa presence mo. Give them the breathing room. If feel mo rejecred ka padin after nyan, wala na talaga... at least nasimulang mo na ung unang steps mo for moving on.
 

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