This is really out of character for me. I am not the type that shares feelings and such. 1st time ko din mag post ng ganito and I feel like this is not the venue for this. I guess I am just desperate....
I am on a very long term relationship 10 years+ . To put it short, I feel like my girlfriend that I am in love with ay hindi na sya. I am not sure but i think I am feeling out of love na. To make things clear, this is not due to a 3rd party or what not.
When I met this woman , shes is independent, caring, and loving. I know that she is not a 100% not those anymore. She still care and love me and like anyone else that is falling out of love there is a BUT, When we started our relationship we were both young adults striving to survive in this world. We were working an 8 - 5 job but after 2 years nung naging kmi she stopped working. Initially I thought she just needs to rest since our work industry is quite stressful. Which is fine , to be honest I can earn nmn for us to survive. We don't plan to have kids and such which my young ãdül† mind can justify since we are surviving nmn. I guess going to a young middle age man's mind since we don't plan to have kids , our goals should adjust too. Of course, I try to make her on the same page with that, but her attitude towards getting a job didn't change. Now she has been out of work for almost 9 + years. Which is on a daily basis not a problem as I said we can survive with my earnings but I feel like she being too dependent of me. We didn't even had a talk that this will be the case na, To be fair with her she is trying to get work minsan. I know her capabilities so I know and confident that she can get a job if she just tried harder. I can safely say that I did all the push that I can without her feeling "pressured" because sometimes she complains that she is being pressured.
I guess, Maybe that other aspects of her that changed for me is just being amplified but for my peace of mind and unloading things here it is . I feel that shes is being too naggy, I know partly this is my fault , to put it short burara din kasi ako sa bahay but I feel like I am doing my part nmn sa house chores and such its just that she has her own standards pag dating sa "kalinisan" sa bahay. I feel that she is too demanding , there are times that she asks for me to pay her families bills , and such . It is not a big deal for me since to be honest it is really occasional and it is not a big amount. She is also very needy I know that girls have their own fears and such but sometimes gigising nya ako mid sleep from a stresfull day just to freaking kill a bug or what not. I feel that I can go on but the other things I can live with.
To be honest I am not sure if what I am feeling is bad and I should not be like this o if I am nit picking because of my main issue which is her being out of job for so long. I used to say that finances should not make or break a relationship but it is like we are not on the same page with our goals , I am not sure if am being too guilty since I sincerely believe that money should not matter sa relationship but again I don't know if what I am thinking is right.
It is weird for me to let others have a take on this but as I said I am just too desperate to know if what I feel is wrong or right. I guess I am doing this to have a "clearance" to break up because that actually crossed my mind and at the same time if don't want to hurt her feeling since I still love her.
Feel free to respond here if you need more information to make an "informed advise". I won't share any personal information but I will try as much as I can to give out all that is needed.
I am on a very long term relationship 10 years+ . To put it short, I feel like my girlfriend that I am in love with ay hindi na sya. I am not sure but i think I am feeling out of love na. To make things clear, this is not due to a 3rd party or what not.
When I met this woman , shes is independent, caring, and loving. I know that she is not a 100% not those anymore. She still care and love me and like anyone else that is falling out of love there is a BUT, When we started our relationship we were both young adults striving to survive in this world. We were working an 8 - 5 job but after 2 years nung naging kmi she stopped working. Initially I thought she just needs to rest since our work industry is quite stressful. Which is fine , to be honest I can earn nmn for us to survive. We don't plan to have kids and such which my young ãdül† mind can justify since we are surviving nmn. I guess going to a young middle age man's mind since we don't plan to have kids , our goals should adjust too. Of course, I try to make her on the same page with that, but her attitude towards getting a job didn't change. Now she has been out of work for almost 9 + years. Which is on a daily basis not a problem as I said we can survive with my earnings but I feel like she being too dependent of me. We didn't even had a talk that this will be the case na, To be fair with her she is trying to get work minsan. I know her capabilities so I know and confident that she can get a job if she just tried harder. I can safely say that I did all the push that I can without her feeling "pressured" because sometimes she complains that she is being pressured.
I guess, Maybe that other aspects of her that changed for me is just being amplified but for my peace of mind and unloading things here it is . I feel that shes is being too naggy, I know partly this is my fault , to put it short burara din kasi ako sa bahay but I feel like I am doing my part nmn sa house chores and such its just that she has her own standards pag dating sa "kalinisan" sa bahay. I feel that she is too demanding , there are times that she asks for me to pay her families bills , and such . It is not a big deal for me since to be honest it is really occasional and it is not a big amount. She is also very needy I know that girls have their own fears and such but sometimes gigising nya ako mid sleep from a stresfull day just to freaking kill a bug or what not. I feel that I can go on but the other things I can live with.
To be honest I am not sure if what I am feeling is bad and I should not be like this o if I am nit picking because of my main issue which is her being out of job for so long. I used to say that finances should not make or break a relationship but it is like we are not on the same page with our goals , I am not sure if am being too guilty since I sincerely believe that money should not matter sa relationship but again I don't know if what I am thinking is right.
It is weird for me to let others have a take on this but as I said I am just too desperate to know if what I feel is wrong or right. I guess I am doing this to have a "clearance" to break up because that actually crossed my mind and at the same time if don't want to hurt her feeling since I still love her.
Feel free to respond here if you need more information to make an "informed advise". I won't share any personal information but I will try as much as I can to give out all that is needed.