Paano maging good provider soon kung BREAD WINNER ka ng family?

[Jovito27]

I have currently a gf, secured naman na ko sa kanya I love her as much as she loves me. Ngayon medyo mas malaki ang kinikita nya compare to mine. May mga pagkakataong sya ang sumasagot ng food namin pag nasa date, tapos sakin gas lang hatid at sundo sa condo (motorcycle only). As I said sa title breadwinner ako, so may mga takot ako na baka hindi ako maging good provider sa kanya if we settle down. We are both 30+ so we are thinking about it na. Baka may same scneario dito mga lods it'll help a lot. Thank you..

 

[Huh Yunjin]

Wala akong lovelife pero if okay lang sa kanya yung ganoong dynamic then hindi ka po siguro dapat mag-worry masyado. Mahal ka naman niya so naa-appreciate naman siguro niya yung role mo. Pero syempre, strive for a better position in your work or a better paying job pa rin.

 

[evil_iori]

una papz you should be aware of priority,
na kapag nagpamilya ka ( kahit wala pa kayo anak) yung partner mo na ang priority mo, not saying na iiwan mo na ang pamilya mo at di ka na tutulong. pero still, kung malawak ang point of view ng partner mo about the idea of you being the bread winner of your family and you still need to provide and support them walang masama,
pero palaging may consequences yan in both ways.
GOOD luck sayo papz

 

[Diana mercado]

I think ang pinaka point lng nmn ni ts dito is parang nanlilit sya sa sarili nya Kasi mas Malaki kinikita Ng partner nya, which is nkakababa talaga Ng kumpyansa bilang isang lalaki, Kasi mindset Kasi natin is dapat pag lalaki ka is dapat mas Malaki ambag mo if magkaroon ka na Ng sariling pamilya, at Ang problem ni ts is parang mas Malaki Kita Ng gf nya which is parang feeling nya sa sarili nya is parang wla syang silbi, sorry for the word pero Yun ata yung point nya. Pero advice ko lng sayo ts is Hindi nmn importante Kung Sino Ang mas Malaki Ang Kita, Ang importante eh magtulungan kayo.

 

[C E S S]

No, may mga ganyan na mas malaki ang salary ng misis. Well sa culture natin minsan babae pa may asawa and tambay lang ang guy. Ang important mahal ka ni girl and wala syang complain, probably she really loves you. So wag kang mag-overthink. Basta do your best. Di madaling solusyuhan na gusto mo mas malaki salary mo, it might happen, it might not happen. Now you mentioned both 30+ na kayo cguro pwede na rin kayo magplan for wedding kahit office lng priest o pastor o civil. Private ceremony lang.

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

This is very common. Both parents ko, at parents ng asawa ko ay ganito ang sitwasyon. Pati nmn kami mag asawa ganyan. So kung culture ang usapan, this is really acceptable. As long as it does not undermine her respect to you as an equal authority when it comes to family decisions.

Though naiintindihan ko din yung feeling ng insecurity na dulot ng cultural norms natin. Try to be more open minded. Para maging "good provider" ka, maging willing ka din mag swap ng roles na traditionally sa babae. Gaya ng household chores, or pag aalaga ng bata. These are also important task sa society at family, na underrated just because of the fact that it does not earn money to do these. You will only appreciate them pag wala na willing gumawa nito para sainyo.

And of course, if there is also an option to upgrade yourself, kausapin mo ang partner mo. I am sure your partner will understand kung gusto mo mag aral, magtraining, or mag start ng business. Being a 30+ yr, i am sure 4 yr sacrifice is nothing. Depende sayo baka in 2 yrs ma achieve mo na.

More powers lods.

 

[Pastor-Kanor]

Wala akong lovelife pero if okay lang sa kanya yung ganoong dynamic then hindi ka po siguro dapat mag-worry masyado. Mahal ka naman niya so naa-appreciate naman siguro niya yung role mo. Pero syempre, strive for a better position in your work or a better paying job pa rin.

Best solution "strive for a better position in your work or a better paying job pa rin"

 

[Diana mercado]

Actually mahirap na talaga mag approach sa panahon ngayon kaya nga Malaki Rin Ang tulong Ng social media eh para mas mabilis kumilala Ng tao if ever nahihiya ka mag approach in person.