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[maverick09]

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Hi there! It's understandable that you're feeling confused and hurt right now. Discovering your partner's past can be challenging, especially when it involves actions that go against your beliefs and values.

First and foremost, it's important to take some time to process your emotions and reflect on what this means for you and your relationship. It's normal to feel disappointed, betrayed, and unsure about your future with your partner. Allow yourself to feel these emotions and give yourself the space to heal.

When you're ready, it might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about what you discovered. It's essential to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding. Ask your partner about their intentions and why they didn't disclose this part of their past earlier. Understanding their perspective can help you make sense of their actions.

During your conversation, express your concerns about the implications this might have on your future together, especially since you are both involved in church ministry. Share your fears and ask for reassurance that they are committed to living a faithful lifestyle moving forward.

In any relationship, trust and honesty are vital. It's crucial to evaluate whether you can rebuild trust and move forward from this revelation. Consider whether your partner's actions align with your values and if you can accept their past and forgive them.

Additionally, seeking guidance from a trusted mentor, counselor, or pastor can be beneficial during this challenging time. They can provide you with wisdom, advice, and a fresh perspective on how to handle this situation.

Remember, healing takes time, and it's okay to take a step back and reassess your feelings and the future of your relationship. Trust your instincts and listen to what your heart is telling you. Ultimately, it's your decision whether you can accept your partner's past and move forward together.

Take care of yourself throughout this process and prioritize your emotional well-being. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who can provide love and encouragement.