Di gusto maging unfair

[pumpey]

Ask lang ako pag sinabi ba sa inyo, na ayaw daw niya maging unfair sa akin kaya hindi niya ako sinagot. Does it mean ba na hindi ka niya mahal?

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

"Mahal" is a very vague word, na wala nang meaning because of being misused too much. If you put it that way, it is easy to misunderstand.

To be more precise, hindi nya kaya or hindi siya willing mag reciprocate sa treatment mo sakanya. Take it as is, at wag mo baguhin ng meaning para maiwasan ang inappropriate reaction.

Siguro lang, baka sa relation nyo ay nag express ka (directly or indirectly) na naghahanap ka ng certain commitment sakanya na wala sa lugar. Maaaring masyadong maaga, or sobra sa dapat. If you want to maintain relationship to this person, you must learn to step back from the attachments you made. It is also a valid move to find someone else to whom you are on the same page with, or just to start from scratch to avoid the same mistake.

 

[Kaiztakaw]

women are complicated beings. you can never tell what they really feel. sometimes they make this statements to avoid unnecessary damage when they actually making it more difficult when they make you in a state of make believe. lets just say damage control with an opposite result(depending on the rejected guy). I hate girls trying to act so saintly thinking hindi sila nakakasakit sa mga ganitong statements. I experience this a few times before then you will see the girl na magkakaroon ng committed relationship with another guy after your rejection in few weeks or months time. Bakit ba they live in a fantasy that they are good creatures when stating the truth is a much more realistic way to reject a person. sabihin na lang sana nilang hindi ka nila gusto, for me this is the most and best way para makamove on agad ang tao... Ang dami ko pang gustong sabihin hahahaha I nakakabaliw lang naman kasi ang magmuni muni kung saan ka nagkamali... nakaka!@R*!@(%!&@#^!(# HAHAHAHA

 

[reyman19]

ibig sabihin hindi ka nya type

 

[pumpey]

women are complicated beings. you can never tell what they really feel. sometimes they make this statements to avoid unnecessary damage when they actually making it more difficult when they make you in a state of make believe. lets just say damage control with an opposite result(depending on the rejected guy). I hate girls trying to act so saintly thinking hindi sila nakakasakit sa mga ganitong statements. I experience this a few times before then you will see the girl na magkakaroon ng committed relationship with another guy after your rejection in few weeks or months time. Bakit ba they live in a fantasy that they are good creatures when stating the truth is a much more realistic way to reject a person. sabihin na lang sana nilang hindi ka nila gusto, for me this is the most and best way para makamove on agad ang tao... Ang dami ko pang gustong sabihin hahahaha I nakakabaliw lang naman kasi ang magmuni muni kung saan ka nagkamali... nakaka!@R*!@(%!&@#^!(# HAHAHAHA

kaya nga I really prefer sana na ganito mag sabi na lang if hindi ka talaga gusto. Vague palagi natatanggap eh. Sasabihin pa na walang mali sayo everything is good. Parang nagkakaroon ka ng pag asa diba. If deretso na lang sana na hindi ka niya gusto mas mabilis pa tayo makaka move on.

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

kaya nga I really prefer sana na ganito mag sabi na lang if hindi ka talaga gusto. Vague palagi natatanggap eh. Sasabihin pa na walang mali sayo everything is good. Parang nagkakaroon ka ng pag asa diba. If deretso na lang sana na hindi ka niya gusto mas mabilis pa tayo makaka move on.

Actually, bilang lalake, naramdaman ko din yan nararamdaman nila. Yung tipong wala nmn talagang mali, pero sadyang hindi mo gusto yung tao at hindi mo siya maimagine bilang isang sêxual partner, while on the other hand gusto mo yung company nila. Universal yan sa mga tao nangrereject at may conflicting standards sa love.

This is really a proof na malaking pagkakamali ang idea ng romanticsm kung saan ginawang synonymous ang pagmamahal sa isang tao at ang seksual na attraction.

 

[FELITITON17]

Hindi ka nya gusto kapag ganyan maganda na ganyan ang mangyari may consideration sya sayo at sa feelings mo

 

[pumpey]

Actually, bilang lalake, naramdaman ko din yan nararamdaman nila. Yung tipong wala nmn talagang mali, pero sadyang hindi mo gusto yung tao at hindi mo siya maimagine bilang isang sêxual partner, while on the other hand gusto mo yung company nila. Universal yan sa mga tao nangrereject at may conflicting standards sa love.

This is really a proof na malaking pagkakamali ang idea ng romanticsm kung saan ginawang synonymous ang pagmamahal sa isang tao at ang seksual na attraction.

Tanong lang pag hindi ka niya talaga naiisip as sexual partner... One time nanaginip daw siya na naging kami tapos may nangyari daw sa amin tapos hiniwalayan ko daw. Pag gising niya umiyak siya kasi parang totoo daw.

Nagugululohan ako actually mixed signal siya eh. Ano take niyo sa pangyayari na ito?

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Tanong lang pag hindi ka niya talaga naiisip as sexual partner... One time nanaginip daw siya na naging kami tapos hiniwalayan ko daw. Pag gising niya umiyak siya. Nagugululohan ako actually mixed signal siya eh. Ano take niyo sa pangyayari na ito?

Magkaiba kasi ang spur of the moment feelings saka pag commited relationship na ang usapan. Maaari din yun tlga nararamdaman nya nung time na iyon, pero nagbabago ang nararamdaman ng tao lalo kung hindi niya ito verbally sinasabi sa tao. Pero mas maigi kasi siya ang tanungin mo jan. Phrase your question more direct para mas makakuha kadin ng mas diretsong sagot.

Pero in my case nung ako nasa parehas ng position nya, I intentionally give vague and mixed signals, kasi i wanted to keep her "there". There is an element of selfishness to it. I give full disclosure like "hindi ko kaya maging fair sayo", so she does not expect, but at the same time nagbibigay ako ng mga gestures na alam kong kikiligin sya to keep her around. I want to keep her close, para may fallback ako ano man ang mangyari. Nag share na ako dito ng mejo story namin Share Your TOTGA story
Eto nmn ay point of view ko lang, at hindi nangangahulugan na ganito din yan ligaw mo, so take it with a grain of salt.

 

[Kaiztakaw]

Tanong lang pag hindi ka niya talaga naiisip as sexual partner... One time nanaginip daw siya na naging kami tapos may nangyari daw sa amin tapos hiniwalayan ko daw. Pag gising niya umiyak siya kasi parang totoo daw.

Nagugululohan ako actually mixed signal siya eh. Ano take niyo sa pangyayari na ito?

You can still pursue or not its your decision but minsan kasi, in rare cases, nadadaan yan sa pamimilit. But If I were in your position which I had already been, I would still choose to move on and forget and be unfamiliar with her. I will let her be the stranger that she is and will avoid her through and through. Dito mo rin malalaman if totoo ung sinasabi niya or she is just pretending (kung may reaction kang makikita na I highly recommend na dont expect of anything ganduer for it may hurt you like a double edge sword) . Kaya I really suggest to find someone na ikaw ang mahal at not the other way around, and be committed if ever you find her. Mahirap man ito but doable, Men are built to endure and tolerate. You can learn love, with commitment and dedication, puting everything else aside, It can be done. It's easier to love someone who appreciates you than someone who pushes you away.

 

[pumpey]

Salamat ganda ng mga advice niyo minsan talaga need mo makita sa ibang perspective. Nakakabulag kasi mag mahal.

 

[Diana mercado]

Hindi nmn Kasi ganun kadali mang reject no, kailangan mo pang mag isip ng nice na words para nman Hindi ka magmukhang masama, alangan namn sabihin mo directly don sa tao na "Hindi Kita type".

 

[Solofly]

I dealt a lot of rejection in the past most women di talaga prangka na mag reject sayo at usually ang reason nila is walang sense (katulad ng unfair para sayo blah blah) i also cheated on by a women at ganun rin ang outcome (usually sinasabi nila is walang spark, di sila na sa satisfy) at hindi exact yung reason bakit sila nag cheat.
I think in terms of science is they do it in order to protect themselves and their image and mostly women are emotional than us so ayaw nila makasakit ng damdamin ng ibang tao kaya ginagawa nila yung rejection na di masyado nakakasakit ng damdamin. Instead na sabihin sayo yung totoong dahilan kung bakit nya ayaw sayo.
Tayo gusto natin ng prangkang sagot at totoo para mabago natin yung mga flaws natin bakit ayaw nila sa atin pero karamihan sa babae di prangka. It is what it is.

 

[pumpey]

Hindi nmn Kasi ganun kadali mang reject no, kailangan mo pang mag isip ng nice na words para nman Hindi ka magmukhang masama, alangan namn sabihin mo directly don sa tao na "Hindi Kita type".

Hello Diana, mas okay tung ganito kaysa mix signal ma appreciate namin yung pagiging prangka. Peru anyway depende sa tao talaga peru ilang ulit ko kasi sinabi sa kaniya na if di mo ako gusto sabihin mo lang ng deretso. Salamat sa feedback.

 

[mfkbr540]

Most of the time.. maybe she's not just that into you