We spend most of our lives searching for our one true soul mate. The one person that completes us, understands us and is accepting of us. But have you ever considered yourself to be your soul mate? You are the person you spend the most time with, so shouldn't you be your own perfect match? Here are some questions to ask yourself in order to see if you are your own soul mate.
Can you spend time alone with yourself? This is an important quality to have. The ability to spend time alone shows you have a healthy relationship with yourself. You do not need to be surrounded by others to be happy. You can be happy doing things your own way and in your own time. Soul mates want to be together and are comfortable being alone with each other. Until you can spend time alone with yourself, you cannot be your own soul mate.
Are you happy about the decisions you have made in the past? We all make mistakes in life, but being able to overcome our faults is an important step in being happy with who you are. Your past can influence your present. Even if you made mistakes, you can still have a successful future. It is how you corrected those mistakes or went on despite of them that makes up your character and your ability to love others and yourself.
Do you feel good about yourself? How is your overall feeling about yourself? Are you happy with who you are? Do you consider yourself a good friend to others? Are you proud of how far you've come? These are important qualities in a soul mate. Being confident with who you are is attractive to others, including yourself. You will have less stress, more happiness and a better life if you like who you are.
Have you achieved goals you set for yourself? Being able to make and accomplish your goals is a sign that you have faith in yourself. You would not be able to make or keep a goal if you did not believe you could complete it. Being able to do that is a sign that you have the trust and confidence that you can achieve hard things.
Do you encourage yourself? A soul mate is someone who can encourage you in times of trial. Can you do that for yourself? Do you beat yourself up for every mistake you make or do you pick yourself up and move on? A person who can encourage himself or herself is a person who has the potential to be successful in life. Recognize your faults and learn from them rather than dwell on them.
Do you stand up for yourself? Are you the type of person who lets others walk all over you or do you stand up for your desires and wants? A soul mate will always protect the one he or she loves. That means you have to protect yourself. Allow yourself to voice your concerns and opinions to others. If something is bothering you, speak up. You don't have to be mean or argumentative, but if you never stand up for yourself, you may be easily influenced or find yourself in situations you do not want to be in.
Can you love others freely? It is important to love yourself, but it is also important to love others. Being kind, loving, caring and concerned for others shows your true soul. Your heart makes up a large part of yourself, and keeping it open to others is how you learn to love with all your being.
If you can answer yes to any of these questions, then you have the potential to be your own soul mate. When you are your own soul mate, it opens you up to being someone else's soul mate, or at least someone else's companion, friend, husband, wife or parent. In loving yourself, you can more freely and openly love others.
