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Feeling the pain?,dumped? Confused? Join the club. Here are some tips to help you come out the other side:
Your pain is normal
Anger, sadness, disappointment, and hurt are common emotions to experience after a rejection.
Youâre allowed to be sad
Youâre only human and itâs normal to feel overcome by emotions after a rejection. You donât have to âbe strongâ or âput on a brave face.â
Find and express your emotions
If this is the first time youâve experienced rejection or the end of a relationship, it may take you a while to sort out your feelings.Having a good cry in a place you feel safe, such as your bedroom, can help release pent-up emotions. Let it all out. We all do it. Being a real person means you have real emotions. Thereâs nothing to be ashamed of.Try to write down how you feel â not for anyone else, just for yourself. It can help you to work out how you really feel. And once the thoughts are down on paper, they might stop swirling round in your head.
Share your feelings with friends
Share your experience with people who care about you. And listen to their stories. If you hear how others have coped with rejection, you may start to believe that youâll be able to cope as well.
Stick to the facts
It can be easy to start over-analysing the situation or to add details that may or may not be true.By sticking with what actually happened, you avoid upsetting yourself even more.
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Log in or register now. or seeking revenge
If someone rejects you, it hurts, but itâs their absolute right. Never, ever try to hurt them back. Also, donât take out your bad feelings on other people around you, by getting aggressive or violent. This will just push people away from you â and likely lead to more rejections and unhappiness.
Donât fall into bad habits
*******, *******, partying, drugs, greasy food⌠and other vices.These are all methods people use to try and comfort themselves. But in the long run, they will only make you feel worse about yourself. Better to occupy your mind with something worthwhile, like sports or creativity.
Keep active. Learn something new.
The busier you are, the less time you will have to feel sad. Take up a new sport. Join a club. Learn how to play an instrument. Try a new hobby. Learn a new skill. You will meet new people and feel better about yourself.
Focus on your positive qualities
Rebuild your self-esteem! Start by asking your friends what they like about you. If this feels too awkward, write your own list of qualities that make you the perfect person to date. Are you loyal and caring? A good listener? A talented cook? An artist? Enhance your hobbies and talents.Try to remember the times your friends and family have praised you. It will remind you that you are indeed quite fabulous.
Give yourself time to heal and forgive.
Like most clichĂŠs, itâs mostly true: time is the great healer. But clichĂŠs are often easier said than done.We know it hurts now and itâs hard to imagine ever feeling different. But one day youâll come out the other side. Promise. Then youâll be ready to meet new and interesting people â one of whom will likely fall for you.
excerpt from lovematters
Your pain is normalAnger, sadness, disappointment, and hurt are common emotions to experience after a rejection.
Youâre allowed to be sadYouâre only human and itâs normal to feel overcome by emotions after a rejection. You donât have to âbe strongâ or âput on a brave face.â
Find and express your emotionsIf this is the first time youâve experienced rejection or the end of a relationship, it may take you a while to sort out your feelings.Having a good cry in a place you feel safe, such as your bedroom, can help release pent-up emotions. Let it all out. We all do it. Being a real person means you have real emotions. Thereâs nothing to be ashamed of.Try to write down how you feel â not for anyone else, just for yourself. It can help you to work out how you really feel. And once the thoughts are down on paper, they might stop swirling round in your head.
Share your feelings with friendsShare your experience with people who care about you. And listen to their stories. If you hear how others have coped with rejection, you may start to believe that youâll be able to cope as well.
Stick to the factsIt can be easy to start over-analysing the situation or to add details that may or may not be true.By sticking with what actually happened, you avoid upsetting yourself even more.
Avoid physical You do not have permission to view the full content of this post.
Log in or register now. or seeking revengeIf someone rejects you, it hurts, but itâs their absolute right. Never, ever try to hurt them back. Also, donât take out your bad feelings on other people around you, by getting aggressive or violent. This will just push people away from you â and likely lead to more rejections and unhappiness.
Donât fall into bad habits*******, *******, partying, drugs, greasy food⌠and other vices.These are all methods people use to try and comfort themselves. But in the long run, they will only make you feel worse about yourself. Better to occupy your mind with something worthwhile, like sports or creativity.
Keep active. Learn something new.The busier you are, the less time you will have to feel sad. Take up a new sport. Join a club. Learn how to play an instrument. Try a new hobby. Learn a new skill. You will meet new people and feel better about yourself.
Focus on your positive qualitiesRebuild your self-esteem! Start by asking your friends what they like about you. If this feels too awkward, write your own list of qualities that make you the perfect person to date. Are you loyal and caring? A good listener? A talented cook? An artist? Enhance your hobbies and talents.Try to remember the times your friends and family have praised you. It will remind you that you are indeed quite fabulous.
Give yourself time to heal and forgive.Like most clichĂŠs, itâs mostly true: time is the great healer. But clichĂŠs are often easier said than done.We know it hurts now and itâs hard to imagine ever feeling different. But one day youâll come out the other side. Promise. Then youâll be ready to meet new and interesting people â one of whom will likely fall for you.
excerpt from lovematters
good thing ,coz everything doesn't stop there,marami pang opportunities
easier said than done, it takes time talaga yan, lalo na kung ikaw mismo e ayaw magmove on ng tunay.. 
masakit talaga yun