YOUR HOW TO DIGITAL DATING GUIDE.
Whether you think a guy is a boyfriend material or you just want to hook up, here's exactly what to type, when.
1. DON'T TEXT FIRST.
- Matchmaker Renessa Rios advises not texting first. But once he reaches out, it's totally cool to keep things moving. "Send a message that's relaxed and fun, like 'Last night was great. Would love to do it again,' says relationship pro Charles J. Orlando. Avoid too-soon statements like "thinking of you," or he may think he's got a clinger on his hands.
2. KEEPING THE PACE.
- Dating expert Adam Lodolce says not to "text him more than he text you." That includes asking what he's "up to" all the time. "You can't keep tabs on the guy if he's not your boyfriend," he says. Since even short texts (like hey) can sound desperate, Rios says. Text only when you have a reason --or make one up. Maybe you ran into a mutual friend or ate at a restaurant he wanted to try-- both are totally acceptable reasons to reach out.
3. CLOSE THE DEAL.
- Show confidence without being aggressive, says relationship expert Lori Bizzoso. Instead of texting something vague like "How was your day?" Ask him out. "Inviting him for late night drinks versus afternoon coffee, signals you're looking for a fun evening." If you simply want a hook up, and you've done so before, text something like "I can't stop thinking about kissing you again," says Lodolce. "If he doesn't get the hint, move on."
4. BREAKING THINGS OFF.
- If you've gone out only once with the guy, then a simple "Sorry, im really busy, I'd rather just be friends for now" text is fine, Lodolce says. But, if you've been on a few dates, you're going to have to say a bit more. Start with something you liked about him (like his sense of humor), but that you just didn't feel a spark, Rio says. To soften the blow, end with "I wish you the best-- i know the right girl will adore you.
Credits, cosmo mags.
Whether you think a guy is a boyfriend material or you just want to hook up, here's exactly what to type, when.
1. DON'T TEXT FIRST.
- Matchmaker Renessa Rios advises not texting first. But once he reaches out, it's totally cool to keep things moving. "Send a message that's relaxed and fun, like 'Last night was great. Would love to do it again,' says relationship pro Charles J. Orlando. Avoid too-soon statements like "thinking of you," or he may think he's got a clinger on his hands.
2. KEEPING THE PACE.
- Dating expert Adam Lodolce says not to "text him more than he text you." That includes asking what he's "up to" all the time. "You can't keep tabs on the guy if he's not your boyfriend," he says. Since even short texts (like hey) can sound desperate, Rios says. Text only when you have a reason --or make one up. Maybe you ran into a mutual friend or ate at a restaurant he wanted to try-- both are totally acceptable reasons to reach out.
3. CLOSE THE DEAL.
- Show confidence without being aggressive, says relationship expert Lori Bizzoso. Instead of texting something vague like "How was your day?" Ask him out. "Inviting him for late night drinks versus afternoon coffee, signals you're looking for a fun evening." If you simply want a hook up, and you've done so before, text something like "I can't stop thinking about kissing you again," says Lodolce. "If he doesn't get the hint, move on."
4. BREAKING THINGS OFF.
- If you've gone out only once with the guy, then a simple "Sorry, im really busy, I'd rather just be friends for now" text is fine, Lodolce says. But, if you've been on a few dates, you're going to have to say a bit more. Start with something you liked about him (like his sense of humor), but that you just didn't feel a spark, Rio says. To soften the blow, end with "I wish you the best-- i know the right girl will adore you.
Credits, cosmo mags.