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What is love?
Love styles are models of how people love, originally developed by John Lee (1973,1988). He identified six basic love theories—also known as "colors" of
love—that people use in their interpersonal relationships:
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
Love styles are models of how people love, originally developed by John Lee (1973,1988). He identified six basic love theories—also known as "colors" of
love—that people use in their interpersonal relationships:
- Eros – a passionate physical and
emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love - Ludus – a love that is played as a game or sport; conquest
- Storge – an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship, based on
similarity - Pragma – love that is driven by the head, not the heart;
undemonstrative - Mania – highly volatile love; obsession; fueled by low self-esteem
- Agape – selfless altruistic love; spiritual; motherly love
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
- To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
- To know the pain of too much tenderness.
- To be wounded by your own understanding of love; and to bleed willingly and joyfully.
- To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
- To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
- To return home at eventide with gratitude; and then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips."
- Manipulation. "If you loved me, then you would..." isn't love, but rather infatuation.
- Compromising who you are. If someone asks you to do or say something that isn't in your nature, that isn't true love. Although love does involve compromises between partners, someone who is in love with you will never ask you to change who you are in order to be loved.
- Violent. Passions can definitely become inflamed with someone you love, but a relationship with physical or emotional violence isn't true love.
- Just lust. Yes, chemistry and physical attraction are important, but true love also includes commitment, trust and respect.So then, what exactly is love
True Love Is...- True Love is Caring. The ancient Greeks had many different names for different forms of love: passion, virtuous, affection for the family, desire, and general affection. But no matter how love is defined, they all hold a common trait: caring.
- True Love is Attractive. Attraction and chemistry form the bond that allows people to mate. Without this romantic desire for another individual, a relationship is nothing more than lust or infatuation.
- True Love is Attached. Like the mother-child bond, attachment comes after the initial attraction. Attachment is the long term love that appears anywhere from one to three years into a romantic relationship (sometimes sooner and very rarely after), and you'll know you've found it when you can honestly say, "I've seen the worst and the best you have to offer, and I still love you," while your partner feels the same way.
- True Love is Commited. When it comes to true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. Its the knowledge that your partner cares for you and has your back, no matter what the circumstances. People who are strongly commited to one another will, when faced with seemingly negative information about their partner, see only the positive. For example, a friend comments that your partner doesn't say a lot. "Ah yes, he's the strong, silent type," you reply. People with less commitment to their partner would instead say something like, "Yeah, I can never have conversation with him. Its annoying."
- True Love is Intimate. Intimacy is a crucial component of all relationships, regardless of their nature. In order to know another, you need to share parts of yourself. This self-revealing behavior, when reciprocated, forms an emotional bond. Over time this bond strengthens and even evolves, so that two people merge closer and closer together. Intimacy by itself if is a great You do not have permission to view the full content of this post. Log in or register now., but compiled with the other things in this list, it forms an equation for true love.