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Tutorial How to Be a Great Husband

Discussion in 'Lifestyle & Healthy Living' started by jepoy1988, Mar 26, 2016.

  1. jepoy1988

    jepoy1988 Addict Established

    There is no one-size-fits-all formula for being a wonderful husband. Every wife and every marriage is different. But there are some common issues that many married couples face, and if you're dealing with them, the following guidelines will help you become a better husband.

    Being a Good Partner
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    In a mature relationship, honesty is the best policy. It may be difficult, but the truth will allow relationships to breathe. No matter what happens, no one can ever challenge the fact that you are truthful, which might mean that the other person also gives you the same respect. If something doesn't suit them let them know, otherwise they will not trust your opinion. But make it sound like a compliment.
    • Suggest an alternative and attach praise to the alternative. For example, if they ask you if you like something they are trying on (trying on, not already wearing at a party!) let them know that it might work but you think the blue one is your favourite so far because it shows off their great (insert a feature you appreciate, preferably not one that they are self-conscious about).
    • It's not going to be easy to be honest and kind at the same time, so focus on learning how to give a feedback sandwich and you'll both be better off. 2016-03-26_17.40.20.jpg
    Communicate. Do not talk her ear off; however, make sure that if you have any problems that will affect your mood, she is made aware of the reasons for your problems and mood, so that you do not appear to merely be a fickle and cranky creature. Zone out everything around you when you're talking to her. If you ask her a question, ask because you really want to know. For example, ask her what type of môviês she enjoys, or about one of her favourites.
    • If you know it, talk about it a little bit in an honest way, what you thought of it, and make a guess at why she might have liked it. Even if you are wrong, your mate will usually love
      • the fact that you are interested enough to try. Remember, the opposite of talking is not waiting, it's listening.
      • Make sure you're actually listening, not just waiting for your turn to talk. Put off a vibe that tells her that she can tell you anything. Make her feel safe. 2016-03-26_17.42.50.jpg
    Do your part. Don't make her ask you to pull your own weight around the house. This makes her feel like a nag, and it creates an Ad∩lt/child relationship. Which is never good. She is your partner not your mother. Show her she can count on you to get things handled.
    • Clean up after yourself (figuratively and literally). Loving husbands know that anyone can father a baby, but only mature men who understand and accept responsibility can be a good fathers.
    • Do it yourself or be a good helping hand. Great husbands refuse to make anyone do anything they themselves are unwilling to do. Helping your wife doing tasks or chores will gain you great respect from your wife if your consistent and willing. 2016-03-26_17.45.16.jpg
    Seek emotional maturity and take responsibility for your actions.Responsible people honor their commitments, accept their duties and are accountable for damages they incur, debts they owe and claims they make. It's part of growing up, a man steps up to the plate, while a boy complains or criticizes.
    • Make some sacrifices. Mature people make some sacrifices for the people they love and care about even if they would rather have it easy. 2016-03-26_17.47.30.jpg
    Don't brush your wife off. People often find it exasperating when they get the feeling their partner treats them as an inferior in a relationship. Women are no exception. A lot of people have been taught that the only way to get attention when their partner is trying to ignore them is to act more emotional and be louder until the partner finally surrenders and pays attention to her even if in annoyance.
    • If people feel they're being given the cold treatment by people who are supposed to be important to them, they get worried. Especially when it happens without you giving an explanation for why this disturbance has occurred. People aren't mind readers. Your mate is not likely to be able to guess that you're cranky just because they wouldn't let you do something that they felt was very trivial, whereas you found it important.
    • If you know that your mood might lead you to overreact, simply say "I'm feeling really irritated right now. Can we talk about this later after I cool off a bit?" (Don't forget to follow through and actually give her your time later.) 2016-03-26_17.51.37.jpg

    Don't show her even the mildest forms of contempt. Contempt is poison in a relationship. You don't have to act like you like what she said or did, but do not take on an attitude of superiority, even subtly in passing, such as momentary smirking, sighs of disgust or eye-rolling. Such gestures, though seemingly insignificant, deeply show a lack of support, respect and trust, especially over a period of time.
    • The way you naturally act towards her should subtly validate her as a person, even when you do not understand or agree with her. Giving eye contact when she has something important to tell you shows respect; not giving eye contact shows disrespect and that you don't care about her or what she has to say. This will destroy any attempt to communicate well.
      • If you show contempt in front of your child(ren) they will then feel that is an appropriate way to treat their mother. A son may feel he can treat his mother with contempt if he witnessed you treat your wife that way.
     
    Last edited: Mar 26, 2016
  2. warhistory

    warhistory Enthusiast Established

    hahaha thanks po , ngayon alam ko na
     
  3. rappogi456

    rappogi456 Addict Established

    Thanks ts hahahahaha kahit bata pako atleast alam ko na bagito na dis
     
  4. jepoy1988

    jepoy1988 Addict Established

    Your welcome (y)
     
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