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Trivia 6 signs you are afraid of being in a relationship

Discussion in 'Lifestyle & Healthy Living' started by Chyse, Jun 10, 2016.

  1. Chyse

    Chyse Honorary Poster Established

    6. You haven’t made peace with your past

    One of the most basic reasons why people are scared to be in a relationship is because they’re still haunted by certain events of their past, events that hurt them in such traumatic ways that it’s very hard for them to come back to how they once used to be. Even the slightest or tiniest trigger can tick you off and bring you back into that state of fear and depression, as long as you let it have that power over you, and it’s not going to heal, not unless you do something about it.


    The Fix
    The fix here is to make peace with your past. I’ve been there, I’ve had a phase in my life where I went back and forth and I hated it. But I slowly helped myself get out of that phase, the memories, the hurt, the pain, the loss, everything bad that happened to me in the past was a cruel reminder in the present and was making me unable to have a happy future. So I fixed it, by making friends with my past, by accepting my mistakes, by making amends, by apologizing to the people who I’d hurt in any way, by having proper closure with all of my past demons. That’s something you need to do if you want to move on with your life and be with someone who will love you more than you can ever imagine.

    5. You don’t think you can trust again

    They say trust is the hardest thing to make and the easiest thing to break, they’re right. It could take years to build the perfect trust between two people and it can take mere seconds to break that trust into a million pieces. The fear here is to get hurt again, to get your trust broken again after working on it for so long. But only you can help yourself here, no one else can do anything for you no matter how much love and care they have for you, you’ll still be in your insecure and scared state until you finally decide to come out of it on your own. The key here is to NEVER rely on someone else to help you regain your trust back, do it yourself.

    The Fix
    The fix here is to understand that whatever happened with you in your past was because of someone else, no two individuals are the same in this world and there are a LOT of individuals, so the chances of your trust being broken again are very tiny. You need to take the risk, you need to tell yourself that you WILL let this new person get their fair chance, their own chance to prove that there are still good people in this world, people who care just as much as you do or maybe more.

    4. You think you’ll be trapped

    Another common fear is when people think they’ll be trapped the second they commit to someone. This fear is developed because of a lot of reasons, be it past experience or the experience of others. When you see a friend of yours dating someone, and they keep telling you how much they hate it, how much they miss the single life, how much they wish they were alone right now, these are the common triggers that scare you off from committing yourself to someone who truly deserves to be with you.

    The Fix
    The fix here is to remember that a relationship is NOT about being trapped, it’s not about control, it’s not about molding someone into what you want them to be, relationships are about enhancement, relationships are a blessing. Don’t be with someone who tries to change you, don’t be with someone who tries to impose a lot of ideas and rules over your life, be with the person who loves you for whoever you are and keeps on enhancing that person in you.



    3. You’re scared of breaking up

    A lot of people don’t get into relationships because they’ve seen too many people breaking up and they can sense the pain those people felt when they went through the break ups. Of course, break ups hurt, they hurt for a long period of time, but it doesn’t mean they’re “mandatory” for every relationship. People break up when they don’t want to work on each other anymore, because real relationships require constant work and constant effort, something people don’t realize from the start and they hate it when they find out later on.

    The Fix
    The fix here is to not be scared of breaking up with the person you love, the fix here is to remove the term “breaking up” from your vocab. I love my girlfriend, and no matter how much we fight or differentiate, we always tell each other that we’ll work it out, and we always do. That’s what relationships are all about, to never give up on the person you love because if you truly love them, you’ll love them enough to put every effort you have on them regardless.

    2.You’re afraid of sharing your time with someone


    Most people run away from relationships because they think they are too time consuming and they’ll divide all the time you have into pieces, it’s not like that. Relationships are about two people sharing a life together, the time spent together becomes time shared and it enhances it in every way. It’s a common misconception today that once you get involved with someone, you’re going to have to give all of your time to them, that’s not how relationships work and that’s something you need to stop being scared of.

    The Fix
    The fix here is to remember that you’re not the only person who’s going to share their time with someone, someone else is going to share their time with you in return. Relationships are all about give and take, regardless of the ratio. No one is busy in this world, it’s all about priorities and time is the best gift you can give someone. And if they love you enough to give their time to you, you should happily do the same to them.

    1.The fear of your social life changing, forever

    This one is at the top of my life, a large chunk of people are scared of being in a relationship because they think it will change the way they operate, change the way they interact with people, change their social lives and so forth. A relationship that makes you give your social life up isn’t a relationship in the first place, your partner will never make you spend less time with your friends if they truly love you. Your partner will make sure your social life is more enhanced than ever.
    The Fix
    The fix here is to remember that a real relationship will only enhance you in every way possible. Your partner will try their best to be a part of your social circle, just to make you be more at ease about things, they won’t interfere if they aren’t able to be a part of it but they still won’t ask you to stop doing anything with your friends because your partner knows your social life is important too. Being in a strong relationship will only groom you as an individual, it shouldn’t have any impact on your social life.

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  2. Thanks for sharing Miss ChyseChyse ;)
     
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  3. thanks for sharing :blackalien:
     
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  4. Chyse

    Chyse Honorary Poster Established

    Welcome po (y)
     
  5. Thanks for sharing kabit NBSB pa ako eh noh :ROFLMAO::hilarious: Pero medyo mahirap talaga magrisk. Mas maganda kasi kapag nagmahal ka na, sana siya na rin si the one, sakit magkamali :notworthy:
     
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  6. Chyse

    Chyse Honorary Poster Established

    Oo nga eh, nakakatakot talaga magmahal :(
     
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  7. kriezcian

    kriezcian Enthusiast Established

    ako din, may "Phobea" na pagmamahal. lahat ng 6 sign tama ,

    ako din, may "Phobea" na sa pagmamahal. lahat ng 6 sign tama ,

    ako din, may "Phobea" na sa pagmamahal. lahat ng 6 sign tama, at nararamdaman ng mga taong nagmahal ng buo.
     
  8. Baka ma report eto sa tnt malaman na nila ang mga signs sa pagmamahal.. :) Thank you for sharing.. Mahirap magmahal masasaktan ka lang.
     
  9. kriezcian

    kriezcian Enthusiast Established

    kapag nagmahal ka, nakahanda ka sa lahat ng posibilidad, masaktan ka man o anu pa.Matatanggap mo lahat un dahil nag mahal ka.

    seryoso ako, Lols.xD
     
  10. PerfectStranger

    PerfectStranger Addict Established

    thanks sa info pero ganun talaga parang laging sugal yung isang bagay. walang kasiguraduhan eh.
     
  11. phinkzz_12

    phinkzz_12 Enthusiast Established

    Thanks for Sharing :D Haha Now I know
     
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