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5 Signs You’re in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Discussion in 'Traditions & Beliefs' started by Jeanh, Sep 3, 2015.

  1. In many cases, the question of whether a relationship is good or not is not a matter of yes or no. “It’s complicated” is a common answer we get. “Some things in life are not black or white,” is another.

    We agree. Sometimes we just can’t put relationships (and the feelings and great moments and the drama in between) into a single box and label them as good or bad.

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    Some women, however, have a tendency to rely on this philosophy too much to realize that there’s something amiss, that they’re feeling things they shouldn’t be made to feel, that they’re being emotionally abused by their significant other.

    So how can you tell if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship? Here are signs to watch out for:

    1. He has too much control/dominance.
    Abusive partners may display excessive dominance and control. We’re talking about both in the big and small schemes.

    Being forced to watch a môviê you have expressly said you don’t like can be harmless the first or second time. If it happens constantly (and we’re not just talking about môviês here) to the point that you feel a part of your freedom is being stifled, something is wrong. It can be a sneak peek into his selfish character that wants to dominate every aspect of the relationship, and even your life.

    If you ever feel the slightest suffocation, start entertaining the possibility that you’re a victim of an emotional abuse.

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    Sign 2: He verbally humiliates you.
    Hurling insults and cussing should not be part of any relationship, especially if your partner knows about your insecurities.

    Case scenario: During a fight, he hurls insults at your physical appearance–in front of your friends. You’re humiliated and hurt. You cry in front of him. He apologizes, and you make up. A day later, he does it again. The cycle goes on.

    If he’s really sorry, he will, once and for all, decide to take steps toward self-improvement–especially if his actions are hurting you.

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    Sign 3: The smallest thing triggers his jealousy.
    A harmless glance from a waiter, a friendly text from a colleague, a completely platonic hug from an old friend. If you’re dealing with an irrational, abusive partner, the smallest trigger can set him off.

    If you find yourself looking over your shoulder constantly or depriving yourself of a social life in fear that he would find out and throw a tantrum–it’s a problem that you need to address.

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    Sign 4: He threatens to use physical violence.
    Some forms of emotional abuse can be subtle or neutralized behind layers of disguise. Others, however, are much more direct. If he throws warnings about slapping, kicking, or punching you out of anger, it’s just as bad as the real thing.

    Our advice? Find a way to fix it before it happens.

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    Sign 5: He makes your feel like everything is your fault,
    The tragedy is that most abusive men don’t see the error of their ways. The even more tragic part is that they make you feel like you’re the one at fault. Like, you’re the reason you’re having a fight in the first place, because you were “flirting” with the bus conductor or you’re too “lazy” or “dumb” or “useless.”

    This is probably the hardest to come to terms with, especially if you’ve been led to believe you’re the problem for so long.

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    Women have different reasons for tolerating abusive behavior, either because they can take the blow, or they haven’t taken a step back long enough to realize it. You deserve better. Everyone deserves better.

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  2. vinvergz

    vinvergz Grasshopper Established

    Napakafeminist naman po ata nito in my opinion. Hindi naman lahat lalaki ang may kasalanan di po ba? Meron namang mga babae na porket nakakaangat ng konti sa buhay tinatrato na nilang personal alalay or pangdisplay ang mga partners nila at palagi din pinapagalitan at pinapahiya tuwing may ginawang nakairita sa kanila.

    Anyway, I know that this post is not about battles between male and female so kindly disregard my comment nalang.

    Suggest ko lang din po na gumawa din sana kayo ng followup post kung paano wawakasan ng tama ang mga ganitong uri ng relasyon with minimal damage on both partners.

    Thanks for this post, its very enlightening:)
     
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