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Trivia 3 Questions Single People Need To Ask Themselves Before They Enter A Relationship

Discussion in 'Lifestyle & Healthy Living' started by Chyse, Jun 8, 2016.

  1. Chyse

    Chyse Honorary Poster Established

    1. Are you happy?

    If you’re thinking you need to be in a relationship in order to be happy, then you’re doomed. Completely fucking doomed. Yes, meeting someone you can love will make you ecstatic. But if you’re not already capable of being happy running solo, you’ll inevitably fall back into misery, loneliness and just pure unhappiness.
    You’ll then begin to question the relationship and your love for your partner — a partner you have every reason in the world to love. The problem is with time, that happiness your partner makes you feel fades. It’s not because whatever you two share fades (and it took me a long time to figure this out), but rather because the novelty of the relationship has faded, and you fall back into your resting state.
    And if that resting state makes you unhappy, no love or relationship in the world will make you happy for long enough. You should only get into a relationship if you’ve figured out the secret to being happy when you’re alone.

    2. Do you have the time and space to be in a relationship?

    For some people, life is has room for endless individuals. In my experience, this is mainly because those people are bored most of the time. For those of us who have found a purpose in life, our schedules tend to fill up. But it’s not just about the time. We can usually squeeze in an hour or two of whatever, if we wish to. It’s really about having the mental capacity and will to give this person sufficient thought and attention.
    Why be in a relationship if you can’t make it work? Why waste your time pretending you can give him or her what he or she needs, when you know you can’t? I get you want to be in love. I do, too. But I’m not going to half- it. She deserves better (whomever she is), and she deserves my fullest attention. But if I can’t love her the way she needs to be loved, then why put the two of us through all of that?
    Be honest with yourself. If you know you have other things that need to take priority, don’t tell yourself — or your lover — otherwise.

    3. If you were to meet the one, could you marry him or her, right here, right now?

    This isn’t to say that you have to marry them, or that you have to believe in marriage altogether. But would you be fully willing, and more than that, excited to devote your life to the two of you? It’s OK if you can’t. It’s better that you accept the fact than keep lying to yourself. If you aren’t ready for that level of dedication, then don’t get into a relationship.
    Sure, relationships come in different shapes and sizes, but in the end it all comes down to the same thing: You’re either ready to make it work, or you’re not. And you know whether or not you are, but whether or not you’re willing to admit it to yourself is a different question.

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  2. hahahaha.. salamat dito.. basta happy ka.. ok na un :)
    Chyse likes this.
  3. Weeeah? Happy ba ang laging nag iisa? Boret. Boring kaya haha :D
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  4. Chyse

    Chyse Honorary Poster Established

    Hahaha :D
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